If you are looking for someone to hold your hand – look elsewhere. If you want someone who will pull you up and get you to look at yourself and what’s happening in your world -- and teach you how to change the things that need changing and accept the things that you cannot change, Julie can help you. She did all of that for me.

I was referred to Julie by Dr. Phil, after my son and I became estranged. We’d been very close, until shortly after he fell in love with a young woman who didn’t want me in his life. I ended up on the receiving end of several months of some very intense emotional abuse, including being excluded from their wedding, and I was in a very bad place when Julie took me on. I was nearly suffocating from pain and anger.

Within a relatively short time, Julie not only helped me get past a lot of the hurt and anger, she actually got me to stop focusing so much on being the victim - on the damage done to me -- and take a look at myself and what I might have done to contribute to making the situation worse – and more importantly, what I could do to make it better. That involved an enormous change in my attitude and it was not easy – in fact, it was incredibly difficult – even now, it surprises me I was able to do it, but after some work with Julie, I did. I was able to begin to replace much of the anger with compassion, understanding and forgiveness and focus on what I wanted in the future, instead of being so bogged down in suffering over what had happened in the past. Julie helped me to see how to move forward, so that the stage could be set for reconciliation.

Unfortunately, later on, it became clear that what should have worked wasn’t going to work with my son and his wife -- and Julie helped me past that hurdle, too. I was so desperate to fix things – I had been so focused on that, and so optimistic that I could do it and everything would be okay – so it was very very hard to let go of that and accept that I couldn’t change anything. But Julie helped me to see that I’ve done everything I could and I just have to accept that right now, my son won’t be in my life and there’s nothing I can do to change that or to make things better for him. As a mother, that’s tough to accept, but Julie has helped me to focus more on myself and my life and not let the pain and sadness of what’s happened overwhelm me.  I miss my son more than I can even express, but I am more at peace now.

Basically, Julie has been helping me through the hardest time I’ve ever had in my life – and without her guidance, I’m not at all sure where I’d be right now. She helped me to accept what is, and gave me the tools and insight to be able to move forward. I have learned things which I will use the rest of my life to be a better, more positive and stronger person.  Thank you, Julie.

Jane F

I was talking with a friend about losing weight and using hypnosis to do so. I began to tell her about you, then she told me that she had previously used hypnosis to quit smoking, and come to find out, she and her husband have already been to you. She also talked about how they went to you for marriage counseling, and said that you saved her life twice: once with the marriage counseling, and then again when you helped them quit smoking. 

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know about your success story!!

Pam B.

I want to thank you both for helping me to develop new ways of thinking. Your guidance and support, Julie, has been a tremendous help to me.

I would never have anticipated it, but this has definitely been a life-changing experience for me.

Sincerely,
Jane F.

Hi Julie,

“It’s been a while and I have been busy. I’m sure Pam has filled you in about the fact that I got married after all and fixed things with my mom. You gave me a new perspective with your cut and dried comments that made so much sense. “In for a penny, in for a pound” has helped me a lot along with the suggestions on dealing with my mom. I have power of attorney, went to the police, had my niece kicked out, offended my other siblings, and things are great!

My cold feet warmed up and I realized that I was afraid to give up my single life only to cause another marriage to fail, but things couldn’t be better.

You didn’t know you had such an impact in one visit did you? I was there to listen and sort things out and you definitely helped me focus on the facts.

Thanks again."
Mary D.

Hi Julie,

"I hope you have the most wonderful Christmas. I think having you come into our lives has been the most meaningful present I could have asked for. And, with you here, I have faith that Amy and I will yet work through and resolve our issues. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the time, energy and effort you've generously expended on us. You are simply wonderful! Merry Christmas."

Jeff M.

An excerpt from a letter to Dr. Phil from a couple who had appeared on the show and been sent to Julie:

"…Julie was an integral part of this equation. We had been to see several marriage counselors prior to your show. Actually, your show was our last resort because all other attempts had failed. Immediately, we knew Julie was the one. She was patient and kind, yet forthright and demanding. When negativity would set in, she would gently pull us along and get us turned around in the right direction again. Many of the crisis management skills we use and share with others today were acquired from our time spent with Julie. She is truly an amazing woman. Since the show… we have moved from agonizing over what we don't have to appreciating what we do have. To be more specific, we thank God every day that we have each other and together we were able to maintain a beautiful family."

Brad & Michelle H.

"I didn't think I was going to change, but I did. Julie rocks!'

Self Matters group member
3-29-06

"Thank you Julie for everything. I think I have a better direction for my life & I feel confident that I now know how I need to live authentically!"

Self Matters group member
8-4-04